How to Share Preferences Respectfully (and Get a Better Date)
Most clients have a clear sense of what they want from a high-class date. The part that trips people up is communicating it. Some under-share and expect the agency to fill in the gaps. Others over-share in ways that complicate rather than help.
Getting it right isn’t difficult. A short, clear description of what you’re looking for gives the agency what it needs to make a well-suited match from the start.
Why Preferences Matter
Very High End uses your preferences to narrow the selection and find a profile that corresponds to your social, aesthetic, and temperament preferences. The more relevant information you provide, the better the match.
Preferences that make a genuine difference include: the occasion and setting, preferred language, age range, social style (a quiet dinner or a more sociable evening), shared interests, and whether you prefer an in-call or an out-call. These details give the agency something concrete to work with.
The matching process is handled personally. There’s no questionnaire or automated system. Every profile is selected individually based on what you’ve described and the agency’s own judgment about what’s likely to work well.
What to Include
Start with the occasion and the setting. A dinner engagement calls for a different profile than a gallery visit or an evening at the theatre. A short paragraph, or a few concise list items, is enough.
Describe the kind of company you enjoy. Some clients prefer someone quiet and thoughtful. Others want someone sociable and quick in conversation. Language is worth mentioning too, particularly if you want someone who speaks a specific language or is comfortable moving between more than one during the evening.
Basic details such as incall or outcall preference and your availability window help narrow things down quickly and avoid unnecessary exchange later.
If you have physical preferences, state them briefly and plainly. This is a standard part of the process. The agency treats all information with complete discretion.
Mark anything that might affect the flow of the date. An early morning meeting, a formal event, a particular setting you’re unfamiliar with. If it’s relevant, include it. There’s no minimum or maximum level of detail. The agency will check back if something is missing.
How to State It Simply
Here’s the kind of enquiry that works well:
“Looking for a dinner companion for Friday evening in Mayfair. Prefer someone warm and sociable, comfortable in a private fine dining setting. Fluent English is preferred, some French would be a bonus. Preference for someone tall and fair, and either incall or outcall works for me.”
Direct. Specific. Everything the agency needs to make a strong recommendation. If more details would help, they’ll ask.
You can make an inquiry by phone or through the contact form on the Very High End website. There’s no formal questionnaire to fill in.
What Not to Include
“Someone nice” or “your best girl” gives the agency no useful information. Without a meaningful steer, it becomes harder to make a well-suited recommendation.
Explicit requests, detailed scripts, and over-explaining go beyond what the matching process needs. They tend to distract from the information that actually matters.
Changing your mind after a booking is confirmed creates complications. If your plans shift significantly before things are finalised, let the agency know as early as possible. Repeated changes to dates, locations, or preferences slow the process down for everyone.
The strongest enquiries are simple. Clear plans, realistic expectations, and a brief description of what you’re looking for. That’s what leads to a well-matched arrangement from the beginning.
Ready to make an inquiry? Contact Very High End and share your preferences directly with the team. The clearer your description, the better the match.
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